December 7, 2016

New Projects. Old Fears.

Successful people who I look up to seem to compartmentalise their life and work in terms of projects. Gone are the days of an all-encompassing job or career. Life happens in batches of completed tasks. Some projects last a day (convince them that I’m the right guy for the job) and some never end (be a good parent, don’t mess up your kid, or she’ll end up stripping for cash).

Ideally, you’ve got some cool goal, target or intention of what those completed tasks add up to. You’ll break the work up into smaller daily, weekly and monthly tasks, each with a deadline set by you or some outside authority. Then an inevitable series of things will happen along the way that will try to derail you (ie. f*#k your shit up) and you’ll have to deal with it if you want to complete the project and make a success of it.

This is the nature of work, relationships, parenting, life, you name it. But it’s a proactive vs reactive strategy, that at the very least gives you the illusion of control in your life, which is just one big project anyway!

I’ve found that I feel more motivated, organised and learn more when I embark on ‘projects’. Over the next 13 months, I’m embarking on a pretty significant project to pursue professional golf more permanently. I’ve had to do a ton of planning, seek out coaches, trainers and technology that will assist me, work with equipment companies, organise travel arrangements and tournament dates, and of course there’s a ton of practice, preparation (smaller tasks) and competing that needs to take place over the next year.

What I’m amazed by is some of the fears that have come up for me during this process. Some of these fears are beliefs or ideas that I felt I conquered years ago through other completed projects or ‘life experiences’. Why are they showing up now? Why do I have bad beliefs that could risk the success of my next project? Surely I am better than this?

I went in search of some answers. Tim Goodenough is a best-selling author and one of the world’s leading high-performance coaches, and I’m very lucky that he’s a close friend. I took these thoughts to Tim and luckily he was in the middle of writing a book called ‘Game Changer Protocol’. I volunteered to be his guinea pig for a lot of the research and techniques he’d developed while working with some of the top performers and teams in sports and business over the course of 10 years. First Tim took me through a process to understand exactly what some of these beliefs or ideas were, those that were on the surface, those I was trying to suppress or pretend weren’t there, and deeper still, try to discover if there were any that were sitting at a subconscious level. He explains this process in detail in the book.


He introduced me to 10 foundational beliefs (also found in the book) as well as some unique mental and physical tools to access conscious, subconscious and even physical blocks in the body. As soon as I started using these techniques I could diagnose, address and solve many of the beliefs or fears that were standing in my way of pursuing this new project and ultimately would have derailed any hope of success. This has been some of the most profound and practical personal development work I’ve ever done.

We all carry bad beliefs or negative self-esteem around with us, some of us are able to suppress it more than others or pretend it doesn’t exist. That is until we’re appalled by the situations that play out in our life, work or relationships, and we say ‘how did I end up here?’ ‘how did this happen to me?’ ‘why am I not achieving my goals’ or ’surely I’m better than this?’.

You can start any project that you want to today, there are some very important projects you’re already involved in. What I would hate is that your fears, bad beliefs or any negative self-esteem derail you in your goals or life. Please read this book, it might be the greatest ‘Archimedes Lever’ you could apply to your project that is life.

All the best